Healing the Political Divide, Relationships and More.
 NVC Quick Connect March 2017
Sent Tuesday, March 7, 2017
What You'll Find in This Month's Newsletter:

Political Division within Your Family – What you can do to close the divide, while maintaining your integrity by Newt Bailey
Life-Serving Communication in Sacred Unions- Marshall Rosenberg

Nonviolent Communication Audio Training Course with Marshall Rosenberg at cnvc.org- over 100,000 visitors

Other Good Stuff:
Quotes by Marshall Rosenberg
Quotes by Readers on Relationships
Facebook and Yahoo NVC resources
Almost NVC Cartoon
Book Specials:
Being Genuine
Being Me, Loving You
Getting Past the Pain Between Us
We Can Work It Out

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​​​​​Featured Article
Political Division within Your Family – What you can do to close the divide, while maintaining your integrity
~ published by Newt Bailey, Founder of Communication Dojo
(This article is an edited version of the article “Battleground Family Thanksgiving – What you can do to close the divide, while maintaining your integrity” written shortly after the 2016 U.S. presidential election.)

There are families where the subjects of politics and religion were declared off-limits years ago. If yours is not one of those families, then family gatherings are ripe opportunities for increased division. You may find yourself contributing to that division even if you don’t mean to. It’s all too easy to exchange words with family members in a way that leads to a drop in goodwill and affection – a “hardening of the shield” – and thus an even larger separation between you and them. Scale that across thousands of families – and the division in this country widens even further. I’m hoping that this post will give you some ideas on how to communicate with those who disagree with you, and to maintain your integrity – without widening the divide.

Years ago a friend, let’s call him Jack, texted me on the way to the airport. Jack was about to fly to visit a family member in crisis, and was feeling quite anxious about how communication might go – fully expecting that it could go very badly. He asked me if I could offer some immediately usable suggestions that could be digested within a couple of hours. If you were to ask me the same question as you prepare for a family gathering, here’s what I’d say to you…

Let’s talk first about support and self-connection.


Newt Bailey is a Communication Trainer and Coach to companies in San Francisco and beyond (www.newtbailey.com). He is also the founder of Communication Dojo (www.communicationdojo.com) through which he offers public NVC trainings and private coaching and mediation services.
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Article #2
Marshall Rosenberg's Non Violent Communication NVC
By William Mark Stierle, Yogi Times (February 2005)
*Interview with Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

Do you have Emotional Safety and Expression in your relationship? Imagine greater intimacy with your partner and ask them this question: "Tell me what you are most afraid to say?" The communication technique of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg provides a way to communicate with our partners safely and peacefully.
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Audio by Marshall Rosenberg​​​​​​​
Nonviolent Communication Audio Training Course With Marshall Rosenberg cnvc.org
Audio 9:07:04 listened to by over 100,000 visitors
"NVC intimate relationships serve to:
1) reveal whatever is alive in me at any given moment;
2) receive whatever is alive in you at any given moment."
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
What some people are saying about NVC and Intimate Relationships

“In addition to saving our marriage, Nonviolent Communication is helping us
repair our relationships with our grown children and to relate more deeply
with our parents and siblings. If angels do manifest in physical form here on
this earth, then Marshall Rosenberg must be one.”
—A reader in Arizona

“I spent 40 years of my life trying to receive empathy from my dad. After only
reading half of this book, I was able to express myself in a way that he was
able to finally hear me and give me what I needed. It was a gift beyond words.”
—An online reviewer

“This book is essential reading for anyone seeking to end the unfulfilling
cycles of argument in their relationship, and for parents who wish to
influence their children’s’ behavior by engendering compassion rather than
simply achieving obedience.”
—An online reviewer

“My relationship with my husband, which was good already, has become
even better. I’ve taught NVC to many parents who have since gained a
deeper understanding of their children, thus enhancing their relationship
and decreasing tension and conflict.”
—A reader in Illinois
March Specials
Special #1

Being Genuine

Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real
by Thomas d'Ansembourg

Most of us walk through life with thinking and language that stands as a concrete block between what we want and what we actually get. We stand alienated from ourselves, unaware of what we're feeling, what we want and how to get it. We function on autopilot, putting our personal and intimate relationships dead last behind work, family and other life responsibilities. And we react to loved ones, family and coworkers in ways that further alienate us, keeping us from experiencing the quality of relationships that we all deserve.

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Being Genuine brings Thomas d'Ansembourg's blockbuster French title to the English market. His work offers you a fresh new perspective on the proven skills offered in the best-selling book, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Drawing on his own real-life examples and stories, d'Ansembourg provides practical skills and concrete steps that allow us to safely remove the masks we wear, which prevent the intimacy and satisfaction we desire with our intimate partners, children, parents, friends, family, and colleagues.

With this fresh, new perspective on communication learn to:

  • Safely remove the masks we hide behind
  • Overcome past prejudices and conditioned beliefs
  • Purge your thinking and language of anything that generates conflict
  • Accept responsibility for your feelings and actions
  • Transform the fears that block us from connecting with others
  • Create the space you need to connect with loved ones or colleagues
  • Practice unconditional love each day
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List Price: $17.95
Book: $4.95
eBook: $3.95
Special #2​​​​​​​
Being Me, Loving You
A Practical Guide to Extraordinary Relationships

by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

Many of us think of love as a strong emotion, a feeling we have for another person. Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication helps us take a wholly different and life-enriching approach to love. Love is something you "do," something you give freely from the heart. Learn how to express yourself nakedly and honestly to your partner, friends, or family, for no other purpose than to reveal what's present or alive in you. Discover what thousands of people around the world already know: A heart to heart connection strengthened by joyfully giving and receiving from the heart is the love you long to experience. 

​​​​​​​In these rich pages, Rosenberg helps us learn how to give and accept love willingly - without guilt or obligation. Discover the gift of connecting to what is present or alive in the other person, to receive it emphatically, connecting only to what they've expressed and what they'd like. Develop extraordinary relationships where you're not required to prove your love in the form of attention, praise or physical affection. This giving and receiving is an authentic and joyful manifestation of love much more profound than any transient feeling.


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Special #3
Getting Past the Pain Between Us
Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise

by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

In this important training excerpt, Marshall Rosenberg demonstrates the powerful healing potential of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Transform emotional pain, depression, shame, and conflict into empowering connections. Rosenberg teaches that emotional pain is a signal that we have unmet needs. He provides simple steps to create the heartfelt presence necessary for significant emotional healing to occur. Learn how to transform your personal and professional relationships, and find satisfying reconciliation by moving beyond pain to a place of clear, honest communication.


Through participant role-plays and every-day examples, Rosenberg demonstrates the key to healing pain and conflict without compromise. The healing power of NVC provides a practical and effective communication tool for individuals, mental health practitioners, mediators, families and couples.

Getting Past the Pain will empower you to:

  • Transform shame and depression into personal empowerment
  • Use empathy to address pain or conflict at the onset
  • Get to heart of emotional pain quickly
  • Strengthen your connection to your own needs and wants
  • Let go of unhealthy communication habits that block empathy and healing
  • Strengthen the quality of personal and professional relationships​​​​​​​.
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Special #4
We Can Work It Out
Resolving Conflicts Peacefully and Powerfully

by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.

In over 40 years of mediating conflicts — between parents and children, husbands and wives, management and workers, police and communities, and warring groups around the world — Marshall Rosenberg has learned it is possible to resolve conflicts peacefully, and to everyone's satisfaction. It's not compromise — it's a caring and respectful quality of connection between the parties in conflict.

Why not get to the heart of the matter? Most of us lack the vocabulary to express what we're feeling or needing, leading us to point fingers at someone as the 'cause' of our pain. When people sense that their feelings and needs are valued — and heard — it immediately helps reduce tension and hostility, opening the door for peaceful resolution.

NVC inspires genuine cooperation by focusing on the unmet needs behind the conflict. Whether you're a professional mediator or wishing to resolve a conflict with your spouse, child or colleague, NVC offers practical, usable technique to get to the heart of the issue.

We Can Work It Out will help you:

  • Find mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
  • See the "humanness" of those with whom you disagree
  • Let go of the enemy images and moralistic judgments that often lead to conflict
  • Foster respect and cooperation by focusing on the unmet needs behind the issue
  • Prevent future conflicts by making clear requests for future actions
  • Develop professional and personal relationships based on mutual respect, compassion and cooperation.
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1
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Book: $2.95
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 "What are the characteristics of a healthy relationship?
1. Accurate empathy,
2. genuineness,
3.  unconditional positive regard."
~ ​​​​​​​Marshall B. Rosenberg
© Sven Hartenstein.(used with permission)