Celebrating Marshall Rosenberg
Quick Connect Newsletter February 2017
Sent Tuesday, February 7, 2017
What You'll Find in this Month's Newsletter:

Beyond Good and Evil –Marshall Rosenberg Interview by Dian Killian
The day of the Giraffe- published in Dharma Life

Vision of the Future - a Marshall Rosenberg Interview

How You Can Truthfully Impact CHANGE, Even Through Opposition!

Other Good Stuff:
NVC Cartoon
Facebook and Yahoo NVC resources
Quotes by Marshall Rosenberg

Book Specials:
Nonviolent Communication- a new third edition with an extra chapter on Mediation and Conflict Resolution
Connecting Across Differences-2nd edition

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"We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want."
​​​​​​​~Marshall B. Rosenberg
Featured Article
Beyond Good and Evil: Marshall Rosenberg on Creating a Nonviolent World

This interview of Marshall Rosenberg originally appeared in the February 2003 issue of  The Sun.

I first met Marshall Rosenberg when I was assigned by a local paper to cover one of his “Nonviolent Communication” training seminars. Disturbed by the inequalities in the world and impatient for change, I couldn’t imagine what use a communication technique could be in solving problems such as global warming or the debt of developing nations. But I was surprised by the visible effect Rosenberg’s work had on individuals or families caught in conflict.
Nonviolent Communication, or NVC, has four steps...
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Featured Video
Vision of the Future
Published on Feb 19, 2013
A method using compassion, understanding, empathy, to transform wars and conflicts, promoting Human Capacity to contribute to the well being of others.
MARSHALL ROSENBERG : Psychologist - Writer Creator of Non-Violent Communication ( 23 minutes- almost 50,000 views)
"If I'm using Nonviolent Communication I never, never, never hear what somebody thinks about me. Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. You'll enjoy life more. Hear the truth. The truth is that when somebody's telling you what's wrong with you, the truth is they have a need that isn't getting met. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear the analysis."

​​​​​​​~ Marshall B. Rosenberg

February Specials
Special #1

Nonviolent Communication- a new third edition with an extra chapter on Mediation and Conflict Resolution

Please help us share NVC with more people- please consider buying a copy or more as gifts to those you care about.

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What is Violent Communication ?
If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of
how we communicate  —judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger
pointing, discriminating , speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves,
name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or
judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—
could indeed be called “violent communication.”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Nonviolent Communication is the integration of 4 things:
1- Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of empathy, care, courage, and authenticity
2 - Language:  understanding how words contribute to connection or distance
3 - Communication Skills: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even if in disagreement, and how to move towards solutions that work for all.    
4- Means of Influence: sharing “ power with others” rather than using “power over others”
NVC serves our desire to do three things:
1. Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
2. Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships
3. Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit.
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"Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being."
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg 
Article #2

The day of the giraffe

published in Dharma Life

Marshall Rosenberg is the originator of Nonviolent Communication, a creative approach that is used in education, conflict resolution and mediation. He spoke to Dharma Life about his efforts to promote tolerance and understanding worldwide.

Marshall Rosenberg's experience as a psychiatrist, activist and mediator led him to formulate the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process. Based on a simple model of respectful, kindly communication, its purpose is to encourage dialogue and understanding. It can be applied in everyday difficulties, and has been used by mediators dealing with strife and misunderstanding in situations ranging from marriage guidance to ethnic conflicts. NVC emphasizes the role of empathy in resolving disputes. It involves listening without making assumptions, as well as choosing one's own words and tone with care. In this way, Rosenberg suggests, peaceful solutions can be found that meet everyone's needs.

Dharma Life: The NVC model seems simple in principle but difficult in practice.

Marshall Rosenberg:What could be simpler than being honest? Everyone asks each other, 'How are you?' and 'What do you want?' All human beings are ever really saying is what is 'alive' in them and what they want. But our education makes this hard. The core of NVC is identifying feelings and needs. I went to school for 21 years and I don't recall once being asked what I was feeling or needing. I got a Doctor's degree in psychology without having to examine my own consciousness. I was just good at analysing people in the way the professors taught. So yes, learning NVC for most of us takes quite a bit of practice.

The first step is to separate evaluation from factual observation. Why do we find this so hard?​​​​​​​
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"I think it is important that people see that spirituality is at the base of Nonviolent Communication, and that they learn the mechanics of the process with that in mind. It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life. Even though we don't mention this, people get seduced by the practice. Even if they practice this as a mechanical technique, they start to experience things between themselves and other people they weren't able to experience before. So eventually they come to the spirituality of the process. They begin to see that it's more than a communication process and realize it's really an attempt to manifest a certain spirituality"
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
Special #2​​​​​​​
Connecting Across Differences-2nd edition

Written by Jane Connor and Dian Killian (author of the article Beyond Good and Evil.)

Profound Connection is Just a Conversation Away! In this fully revised second edition, Dr. Dian Killian and Dr. Jane Marantz Connor offer a comprehensive and accessible guide for exploring the concepts, applications, and transformative power of the Nonviolent Communication process. Discover simple, yet transformative skills to create a life of abundance, where building the personal, professional and community connections you long for begins with a simple shift in thinking. Now with an expanded selection of broadly applicable exercises, roleplays, and activities that challenge readers to immediately apply the concepts in every day life, this new edition opens the authors' insight to an even broader audience.


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Drawing on a combined 25 years of experience, the authors help readers to:
• Transform negative self-talk into self empowerment
• Foster trust and collaboration when stakes are high
• Establish healthy relationships to satisfy your needs
• Defuse anger, enemy images, and other barriers to connection
• Get what you want while maintaining respect and integrity

What People are Saying:
"Connecting Across Differences has changed how I approach my work and life. Using empathy to connect with my feelings and needs and with the feelings and needs of the people around me has made me happier and more effective. Jane and Dian, thank you for guiding me on this journey."
--ROBERT MCGUIRE, Executive Director, Merck, Inc.

"Dian Killian is remarkable woman with a great message that brings wisdom to the field of nonviolence."
--HOWARD GLASSER, author, Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach

"Connecting Across Differences capacitates learners with essential personal and interpersonal skills and knowledge needed to nurture and build a culture of peace. Killian and Connor's thoughtfully constructed guidebook opens doors to the possibility for authentic dialogue between self and others and illuminates multiple paths to living with integrity. This book should be on the shelf of every peacemaker."
--TONY JENKIS, Director of Education, National Peace Academy

"Having taught Nonviolent Communication for many years, it seems to me that this book covers every question that I have had myself or been asked about how to learn and integrate this simple yet challenging re-frame of communication with self and others. I am grateful to Dian and Jane for this contribution to the field of applied nonviolence."
--KIT MILLER, Director, M.K. Gandhi Institute For Nonviolence ​​​​​​​
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Audio by Miki Kashtan
How You Can Truthfully Impact CHANGE, Even Through Opposition!

On this first day of Donald Trump's presidency, we are sharing a link to an interview, "How You Can Truthfully Impact CHANGE, Even Through Opposition!," that Miki did on KGO Radio on Jan 16, Martin Luther King day.

You can listen to it here.

The interview is only about 8 minutes long, but it is packed with information. We hope you will find it inspirational.
© Sven Hartenstein.(used with permission)