Orlando Tragedy from an NVC Perspective
NVC Quick Connect July 2016
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NVC Quote
"The kind of spirituality I value is one in which you get great joy out of contributing to life, not just sitting and meditating, although meditation is certainly valuable. But from meditation, from the resulting consciousness, I would like to see people in action, creating the world they want to live in.” ~Marshall B. Rosenberg

Featured Article
Instead of Being Silent
There is something about people dying that I cannot fully make sense of. When it’s a group of people, and even more so when it’s at the hands of other people, I have nothing inside me that feels prepared to know how to make sense of it, what to say to myself, to others.

Silence then becomes appealing. Yet silence allows hatred to continue.
It is love, for me, to explicitly say that the killing in Orlando wasn’t actually the largest mass shooting in US history, no matter how often this message is repeated. Why? Because it’s an invitation to remember people who, at the time of their mass killing by the hundreds, were considered other, and to have their lives count, at least now: the 400 Tolowa Indians in Yontoket in 1853 and the 300 Black people in Tulsa in 1921, as just two examples. It is love, for me, to note to myself that...


"We are this divine energy. It’s not something we have to attain.
We just have to realize it, to be present to it."
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg

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Special #1
According to Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., our most basic spiritual need is to contribute to the well being of others and ourselves. His brief, unscripted reflections on the spiritual basis of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) will inspire you not only to connect with the Divine in yourself and others, but to begin to create a world of empathy and compassion, where the language we use is the key to enriching life.

Discover an intensely satisfying and joyful spiritual experience that begins with you. In these rich pages, learn how NVC can help you achieve a more practical, applied spirituality.

Discover how to:
  • Strengthen the connection between your actions and your spiritual values
  • Let go of enemy images and moralistic judgments, and experience our common humanity
  • Connect with others from a place of compassionate energy  
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NVC Quotes

I use the term Nonviolent Communication™ as Gandhi used it - to refer to our natural state of compassion when violence has subsided from our heart.  While we may not believe we are 'violent', our words and thoughts often lead to pain for others and ourselves." ~ Marshall B Rosenberg

The cause of anger lies in our thinking—in thoughts of blame and judgment.” ~ Marshall B Rosenberg
Special #2​​​​​​​
You can feel it when it hits you. Your face flushes and your vision narrows. Your heartbeat increases as judgmental thoughts flood your mind. Your anger has been triggered, and you're about to say or do something that will likely make it worse.

You have an alternative. By practicing the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process you can use that anger to serve a specific, life-enriching purpose. It tells you that you're disconnected from what you value and your needs are not being met.

Rather than managing your anger by suppressing your feelings or blasting someone with your judgments, Marshall Rosenberg shows you how to use anger to discover what you need, and then how to meet your needs in constructive ways.

This booklet will help you apply these four key truths:
  • People or events may spark your anger but your own judgments are its cause
  • Judging others as "wrong" prevents you from connecting with your unmet needs
  • Getting clear about your needs helps you identify solutions satisfying to everyone
  • Creating strategies focused on meeting your needs transforms anger into positive actions 
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Communication Tip
Steps to expressing anger:
1) Stop. Breathe.
2) Identify your judgmental thoughts.
3) Connect with your needs.
4) Express your feelings and unmet needs.
- Marshall B Rosenberg
NVC Quotes

“If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.” - Marshall B Rosenberg

“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.” - Marshall B Rosenberg

“Anger co-opts our energy by diverting it toward punitive actions.” - Marshall B Rosenberg

Featured Article #2

W.A.I.T before you speak or hit “Send”

It can be tricky to give examples of “effective workplace communication.” We know you can speak or send words to a co-worker, or group of co-workers, that lead to disconnection, conflict, diminished trust, and reduced workplace productivity and harmony. This can happen immediately or gradually over time with enough repetition. However, it’s not always immediately apparent which words will have this effect.

For example – Andy works as a developer for a web-based company. Here’s a morning email sent by Andy, to a group of co-workers. He believes that one or more of them is responsible for launching updates to the web site that have caused the site to break... 

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Special #3

The Life-Enriching Purpose of Anger—When we're angry, we tend to get caught up in moralistic judgments about the wrongness of the other person's behavior. As the tension builds, the best we've learned is to control our anger before it leads to behavior we'll regret. This concise booklet offers a different approach to anger management. By applying the concepts of the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process you'll learn to view anger as a life-enriching emotion that can wake us up to what we need and value. Neill Gibson and Shari Klein offer a powerful, step-by-step approach that successfully transforms anger into healthy, mutually satisfying outcomes.

Get to know the 10 Steps to Transforming Anger So Everyone Wins. If you're an anger management counselor or teach anger management classes, this booklet will give you a fresh and life-changing approach to enhance your techniques. If you've had difficulties dealing with your anger in constructive ways, this booklet will help you transform anger into compassionate connection, healthier communication, and life-serving actions.

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Request for Marshall Quotes

We are very excited about the upcoming, newly revised edition of Nonviolent Communication. In it, we are adding several new handouts, revising the "what people are saying" section, and creating many new pages of Marshall quotes for the back matter. 

This is why we are requesting your help. Would you be willing to send us any or all of your favorite Marshall quotes?

To send us your favorite quotes, just hit reply and add them to the body of the email. It would be very helpful if you know where the quote came from, so please include that information if you have it. Thank you in advance!

With appreciation,
Meiji and Neill
NVC Event

Teach for Life! 2016  - Starts July 31st
In our 15th year, TEACH FOR LIFE! invites educators from around the world into a living laboratory where we co-create a vibrant, compassionate classroom. Expect five days in a beautiful, nurturing retreat environment, renewing your spirit, reviving your passion to teach, and learning new ways to create compassionate learning communities. Expand your ability to live your values, listen deeply to yourself and to others, express yourself courageously, and have fun doing what you love.

July 31-August 5, 2016 - Menucha Retreat Center • Corbett, Oregon (near Portland) Immerse yourself in 6 days co-creating a life-enriching learning community. 

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