Nonviolent Communication- a new third edition with an extra chapter on Mediation and Conflict Resolution
Please help us share NVC with more people- please consider buying a copy or more as gifts to those you care about.
What is Violent Communication ?
If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of
how we communicate —judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger
pointing,
discriminating , speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves,
name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or
judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—
could indeed be called “violent communication.”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Nonviolent Communication is the integration of 4 things:
1- Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of empathy, care, courage, and authenticity
2 - Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance
3 - Communication Skills: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even if in
disagreement, and how to move towards solutions that work for all.
4- Means of Influence: sharing “ power with others” rather than using “power over others”
NVC serves our desire to do three things:
1. Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
2. Connect empathically with self and
others to have more satisfying relationships
3. Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit.
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"Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being."
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
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The day of the giraffe
published in Dharma Life
Marshall Rosenberg is the originator of Nonviolent Communication, a creative approach that is used in education, conflict resolution and mediation. He spoke to Dharma Life about his efforts
to promote tolerance and understanding worldwide.
Marshall Rosenberg's experience as a psychiatrist, activist and mediator led him to formulate the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process. Based on a simple model of respectful, kindly communication, its
purpose is to encourage dialogue and understanding. It can be applied in everyday difficulties, and has been used by mediators dealing with strife and misunderstanding in situations ranging from marriage guidance to ethnic conflicts. NVC emphasizes the role of empathy in resolving disputes. It involves listening without making assumptions, as well as choosing one's own words and tone with care. In this way, Rosenberg suggests, peaceful solutions can be found that meet everyone's
needs.
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Dharma Life: The NVC model seems simple in principle but difficult in practice.
Marshall Rosenberg:What could be simpler than being honest? Everyone asks each other, 'How are you?' and 'What do you want?' All human beings are ever really saying is what is 'alive' in them and what they want. But our education makes this hard. The core of NVC is identifying feelings and needs. I went to school for 21 years and I don't recall once being asked what I was feeling or needing. I got a Doctor's degree in psychology without having to examine my own
consciousness. I was just good at analysing people in the way the professors taught. So yes, learning NVC for most of us takes quite a bit of practice.
The first step is to separate evaluation from factual observation. Why do we find this so hard?
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"I think it is important that people see that spirituality is at the base of Nonviolent Communication, and that they learn the mechanics of the process with that in mind. It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life. Even though we don't mention this, people get seduced by the
practice. Even if they practice this as a mechanical technique, they start to experience things between themselves and other people they weren't able to experience before. So eventually they come to the spirituality of the process. They begin to see that it's more than a communication process and realize it's really an attempt to manifest a certain spirituality"
~ Marshall B. Rosenberg
Connecting Across Differences-2nd edition
Written by Jane Connor and Dian Killian (author of the article Beyond Good and
Evil.)
Profound Connection is Just a Conversation Away! In this fully revised second edition, Dr. Dian Killian and Dr. Jane Marantz Connor offer a
comprehensive and accessible guide for exploring the concepts, applications, and transformative power of the Nonviolent Communication process. Discover simple, yet transformative skills to create a life of abundance, where building the personal, professional and community connections you long for begins with a simple shift in thinking. Now with an expanded selection of broadly applicable exercises, roleplays, and activities that challenge readers to immediately apply the concepts in every day
life, this new edition opens the authors' insight to an even broader audience.
Drawing on a combined 25 years of experience, the authors help readers to:
• Transform negative self-talk into self empowerment
• Foster trust and collaboration when stakes are high
• Establish healthy relationships to satisfy your needs
• Defuse anger, enemy images, and other barriers to connection
• Get
what you want while maintaining respect and integrity
What People are Saying:
"Connecting Across Differences has changed how I approach my work and life. Using empathy to connect with my feelings and needs and with the feelings
and needs of the people around me has made me happier and more effective. Jane and Dian, thank you for guiding me on this journey."
--ROBERT MCGUIRE, Executive Director, Merck, Inc.
"Dian Killian is remarkable woman with a great message
that brings wisdom to the field of nonviolence."
--HOWARD GLASSER, author, Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach
"Connecting Across Differences capacitates learners with essential personal and
interpersonal skills and knowledge needed to nurture and build a culture of peace. Killian and Connor's thoughtfully constructed guidebook opens doors to the possibility for authentic dialogue between self and others and illuminates multiple paths to living with integrity. This book should be on the shelf of every peacemaker."
--TONY JENKIS, Director of Education, National
Peace Academy
"Having taught Nonviolent Communication for many years, it seems to me that this book covers every question that I have had myself or been asked about how to learn and integrate this simple yet challenging re-frame of communication with self and others. I am grateful to Dian and Jane for this contribution to the field of applied nonviolence."
--KIT MILLER, Director, M.K. Gandhi Institute For Nonviolence
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Audio by Miki Kashtan
How You Can Truthfully
Impact CHANGE, Even Through Opposition!
On this first day of Donald Trump's presidency, we are sharing a link to an interview, "How You Can Truthfully Impact CHANGE, Even Through Opposition!," that Miki did on KGO Radio on Jan 16, Martin Luther King day.
You can listen to it here.
The interview is only about 8 minutes long, but it is packed with information. We hope you will find it inspirational.
© Sven Hartenstein.(used with permission)
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